Hang this list on your fridge and check off an item at a time, as you make a difference in a child’s life.
- Notice them.
- Acknowledge them.
- Learn their names.
- Remember their birthdays.
- Ask them about themselves.
- Look in their eyes when you talk to them.
- Say yes a lot.
- Tell them their feelings are okay.
- Be yourself.
- Be honest.
- Notice when they are acting differently.
- Listen to their stories.
- Delight in their discoveries.
- Share their excitement.
- Send them a letter or postcard.
- Notice when they’re absent.
- Give them space when they need it.
- Contribute to their collections.
- Discuss their dreams and nightmares.
- Kneel, squat or sit so you’re at their eye level.
- Answer their questions.
- Use your ears more than your mouth.
- Learn what they have to teach.
- Find a common interest.
- Make yourself available.
- Thank them.
- Clip magazine pictures or articles that interest them.
- Give them lots of compliments.
- Show up at their concerts, games and events.
- Wave and smile when you part.
- Ask for their opinion.
- Be curious with them.
- Introduce them to your friends and family.
- Let them solve most of their own problems.
- Meet their friends.
- Let them tell you how they feel.
- Help them become an expert at something.
- Be relaxed when you see them.
- Tell them about yourself.
- Praise more, criticize less.
- Admit when you make a mistake.
- Find them a special nickname.
- Ask them to help you.
- Believe in them.
- Nurture them with good food, good words and good fun.
- Delight in their uniqueness.
- Notice when they grow.
- Wave and honk when you drive by them.
- Include them in conversations.
- Join in their adventures.
- Help them learn something new.
- Be understanding when they have a difficult day.
- Give them good choices.
- Respect the choices they make.
- Be silly together.
- Make time to be with them.
- Accept them as they are.
- Become their advocate.
- Share a secret.
- Help them learn from mistakes.
- Be sincere.
- Cheer their accomplishments.
- Encourage them to help others.
- Do what they like to do.
- Celebrate their first and lasts, such as the first day of school.
- Go places together.
- Welcome their suggestions.
- Share a meal together.
- Expect their best; don’t expect perfection.
- Love them, no matter what.
Taken from 150 Ways To Show Kids You Care, written by Jolene Roehikepartain for Search Institute.
By Alma Copeland